Over the decades that I’ve been dedicated to this work, I’ve come to see that there is a ‘Healing Arc’ that most people go through, in order to heal themselves of nearly anything.

Bearing in mind that healing and ‘curing’ are not the same thing, most healing journeys don’t require you to ‘add’ anything to them, except for soul retrieval, when you restore lost parts of yourself, or when you get ‘downloads’ of wisdom from other lifetimes or from your Helping Spirits. But, in the main, most healing is the removal of whatever it is that doesn’t serve you.

Often, these things that do not serve arise from outside of you, whether it be from “caregivers” in childhood, or some belief that was picked up culturally, or something that was projected onto you by someone who had unresolved issues. Sometimes experiences we have can leave us with ‘residue’ or even attachments that can undermine our self-worth or self-belief. Intergenerational trauma, where trauma is inherited from our ancestors even if it wasn’t experienced directly by us personally ourselves, is a verifiable and scientifically measurable thing and it can absolutely debilitate us.

The Healing Begins

And so, the healing journey starts with the person for whom the ‘bad thing’ happened. Whether it’s developmental trauma, a bereavement, a bad break-up or some other issue, the healing journey of recovery from trauma usually travels along the same path as grief (shock, denial, sadness/rage, understanding and acceptance), and sometimes depossession and they all tend to fall into lock-step with each other. When you heal one layer of trauma, another layer underneath might reveal the grief around that, or possession illness might come up to be cleared, and once those are gone, another layer underneath reveals another wound, etc., and so it goes on until everything is cleared.

As an example of this healing journey, let us look at the healing trajectory of an adult seeking to find healing, having been a victim of child sexual abuse.

The work tends to start out with the person who needs the healing experiencing intense suffering; they can feel wronged, or be suffering an absence that they perceive to be devastating, etc. It can be worse for the victim of abuse who doesn’t know, or feel, that they have been wronged, or that the abuse didn’t impact them really, because it can take longer for them to come to see their perpetrator for who and what they are, and the damage that that abuse did to their psyche. But if we start with the client who knows that they have suffered and that they need to heal, then the process begins with uncovering the parts that are in pain. Piece by excruciating piece, the client uncovers all the parts of themselves that need help.

The process is slow at first. The client, unsure that the process will even work, takes the first few steps tentatively. Some progress is made, some trust begins, and so the process builds. If the person is devoted to their healing journey, you can heal a lifetime of harm within a few months. Huge shifts can happen quickly, sometimes slip-backs into old belief systems caused by the trauma can occur, but with a strong will, the client will keep going. Slowly, they will come to see all of the landscape of their pain; instead of just individual pieces, they will come to see an aerial view of their hurt and may also mourn for the lost love that they now realise they didn’t get to have. They see their younger selves, trusting and open, so vulnerable and broken and it breaks their hearts all over again.

Rage

About mid-way through the process, the client begins to see their perpetrator as any good parent sees any perpetrator who harms a child. They become fiercely protective of their younger selves that were harmed and they get angry. A good kind of angry. A ferocious anger, the type that I call “mama bear anger”. It’s an anger that protects and threatens harm against a perpetrator, an anger that doesn’t simmer, it lashes out and is violent and rageful. When I see a client at this stage of their healing journey, I know that they will succeed in finding peace if they continue.

I advise clients to ‘own their rage’ and to only let it out at exactly the correct outlet and when they are alone. It’s no point being angry at the bank teller, or the pizza delivery person. You have to direct your rage to the point of origin. There are lots of ways of doing this and everyone is different in their sensibility, so the method of releasing the rage is chosen especially to suit that client. And so they release their rage. And underneath that is grief, often, perhaps then more rage, more wounds, and so on.

Possession Illness

Throughout the process, at some point, possession illness is always discovered. In every case that I have ever with where the adult client was a survivor of child sexual abuse, there was always Dark Side possession illness. Always. The possessing spirit was most often ‘bound’ to the ‘child wound’ (the younger self of the client, the child who was carrying the trauma), either through threat and fear or because the being had convinced the child-part that unless the kid had this being for protection, they would be even more lost that they currently were.

Possession illness is a very real thing. We don’t understand it in the West, not really. But it’s as real as the trauma itself and the beings thrive on feeding off the suffering of the wounded parts of ourselves. Unless we remove the beings that goad the younger selves in their suffering, negative self-talk, harmful behaviours and looped cycles of beliefs will continue.

Once the majority of it is cleared, the client can begin to detect when ‘voices in the head’ belong to that person or to a possessing spirit.. usually by asking if what that person is hearing is “in my nature?” If the messages being heard are against that person’s innate nature, they can challenge the voice and refuse to accept that whatever caused it was truly the client. And, so the next layers of beings are removed and whatever is underneath that then comes to light. And so the process continues, like layers of an onion, coming closer and closer to the core of who and what that person truly is.

The Gold at the End of Trauma Healing

As the whole process unfolds, the client feels lighter, clearer and more spacious in their body. They feel less ‘burdened’ and less swayed by influences outside their control. Finally, about 85% of the way through their healing journey, they realise the difference between a wound and a being and they know how to process their trauma and they cease to be triggered by any of it. They have self-containment, self-care to the fore, an ownership of self they never had before, and an alignment with their ‘true self’ (their ‘higher self’ or their ‘true nature’) as it pertains to who that is in their core and eighth chakra (above the head). This ‘true self’ is arrived at through ‘knowing’.

In other words, in trauma work, that is clearing that which does not serve, yes, we clear influences that don’t belong to us and we are healthier and happier for it, but, most spectacularly, we haven’t just completed a psychological journey of healing, but we have begun a spiritual one. Not only have we cleared that which we are not, but we have begun to understand who we truly are, and that is the gold at the end of this process.

Knowing who we are in our core, over many lives, is the most wholesome gift we can ever give ourselves. It means that we don’t get triggered, we are able to be captain of our own ship, and we can point our energies and intentions into places that we choose and derive a life of fulfilment and joy as a result.

Blessings to all on the healing path.